Smart Balls
I began using kegel exercises to strengthen my urinary sphincter, at
the advice of my doctor. I had no idea that this little exercise would
propel me into learning how to ejaculate, experience unbelievably
explosive orgasms, and be put on a sexual pedestal by my grateful,
utterly enamored, soaking wet husband!
I began by
researching kegel on the internet & finding out the basics of where
the pubococcygeal muscles are, and how they feel when you've isolated
them. You locate them by stopping urine in mid-stream. Ignore the
muscles that tighten the anal sphincter, and also keep from tightening
the abdominal muscles. You're supposed to do this 3x a day, for up to
100 contractions. I set up a reminder, a trigger. Every time I went
off to work or shopping, I would practice my kegel. But I did find
that thoughts or incidents would distract me, and I would forget.
Regardless, I think I did strengthen these muscles quite a bit.
It
wasn't until I began to read about the g spot that I realized how
magnificently I could control & provide pleasure! I went into a
local sex shop in the small city where I live & found some ben wa
balls. There was very little to choose from & the staff didn't
seem too informed. These balls are the size of larger marbles &
made of glass. I used them a couple of times but didn't feel that I
was contracting. In hindsight, was it perhaps because I was ovulating
& swollen, thus holding them in place? Regardless, the last time I
wore them, I found it frustrating. I drink a lot of water (ejaculating
girls always do) and needed to pee. Now! Well, I removed my undies
but couldn't push the ben wa balls out for fear of, well, you know...
So I dug inside me, pulled one out, then dug deeper & couldn't find
the second one. I remained bent over, squeezing my PC muscles while
trying find the damned marble, my knees quivering in a manner
reminiscent of my incontinent dog who tries so hard to hold it in. Ok
Ben Wa. You will be used a paperweight from now on.
So I
went back to working on my own, but felt something was missing, perhaps
consistency, or perhaps tensile strength. As I progressed with
stronger & more multiple squirts, I felt the power that comes with
knowing this ancient form of female sexuality. But when I asked my
husband if he could feel me squeeze his penis when I was motionless on
top of him, he said he could not notice the difference, although when
in the throes of orgasm, he said I grip him so tightly that he cannot
withdraw until I release him.
I decided it was time to
modify my exercise routine. If you work out with weights, you know
that there are 2 different ways to build muscle. Free weights, or
weight machines, have a consistent weight throughout the motion of the
exercise. You maintain your form until you cannot complete the final
rep. Then there are the band workouts, like the bowflex machine. You
perform higher reps because the weight must be less in order to
maintain proper form, and you systematically go down in weight, rather
than up, as is the case with free weights. To do otherwise is to
compromise form & perhaps injure yourself.
After careful consideration, I got the Smart Balls.
Quite honestly, I really felt that I was going to prove to myself that
I can do better on my own, without external help (uh, oh, don't tell my
husband I just said that!). I inserted the smart balls with a bit of
lubricant & went on with my day at home. Unfortunately, I spent a
lot of that day on the computer, getting up only to go to the
bathroom. At the end of the day, I erroneously felt they'd done
little. Then I read the instructions a bit more carefully &
realized that they should be worn during everyday MOVEMENTS.
A
couple of days later, I was heading out to do some shopping. Recall
that I'm always trying to remember to do my kegel exercises & feel
confident about my tensile strength. WRONG! I inserted the smart
balls & went off to pick through organic veggies & sweet
fruits. As I walked back to the car, I felt one of the balls pop out
of my vagina! Hmmm! They're so comfortable that I'd forgotten they
were there! Uh, it's not too easy to pop them back in through your
jeans, so I stopped off at a local restroom. My lesson for that day is
that I can be extremely relaxed, enough to allow the smart balls to
fall out. And this is a good thing, actually, because when training
for female ejaculation, constant tension in the pelvic area is just as
bad flaccid muscles. You need to completely relax in order for the
skenes glands to release their ejaculate fluid & allow it to travel
down to the urethra. And you have to be relaxed enough to ignore that
need to pee, ignore the natural reflex that makes you want to hold the
trickle that you feel traveling along the inside of your ureter.
Then, the tensile strength from using the smart balls is what will
allow you to propel your sweet ejaculate juices, splattering the joyful
face of your beloved, if he or she wishes it so. Yes! Yes! Yes!
Getting
back to anatomy, I do feel that using bands as well as free weights has
help me maintain a healthy musculature, feminine but firm, strong but
sexy. I have a bowflex & also lots of free weights & cardio
equipment in my home gym. I use them all. And I will keep using the
smart balls because they fill a niche that I cannot complete on my
own. The smart balls never let me forget that they are there. They
are teaching me to ignore my pelvic diaphragm (which surrounds the
anus) while tightening the transverse perennial muscle (between the anus
& vagina) while pulling down the ischiocavernous muscle that loops
over the outer part of the vagina, across the top of the
clitoris. BUT, it also loops around the grafenberg, or g spot, and
by walking around during your daily routine with the smart balls
inserted, you're gently stimulating your g spot! Certainly, it's not
enough to ejaculate in public (ha ha!) but it sure does keep your mind
focused on when your sweetheart is destined to arrive home.
The
best sex is after a workout, wouldn't you agree? Smart balls will get
you pumped & primed for an evening of sensual freedom!
Symphony Opus
This is a remarkably ingenious (not so) little vibrator. I've never
felt a material quite like this - it's pthalate-free. It becomes warm
& soft, yet remains firm during use. There is a tiny nub that
works beautifully on the clitoris & clitoral shaft. I didn't feel
it would be ideal for g spot stimulation because it's not of a hard
plastic, but the opus actually gives you a different g spot
experience. There are nubs along the shaft that get wider with the
girth of this vibrator. The length is a decent 6" which allows both g
spot fun & uterine thrusts. When fully inserted & losing ones'
self in its vibration, the lips of my vagina curled around the wider
base shaft & didn't want to let go! Thanks to extensive
pubococcygeal exercises, I've been told that when I grab hold, it's
hard to exit gracefully. So I guess I'd admit that this is also a Pc
exercising vibrator. It's easy to clean & feel friendly from the
beginning of usage, not like some vibrators that feel cold or too
powerful. It has a soft purr that is quite sensual, and the 3 speeds
are exactly enough. There's nothing worse than flipping through 9
settings to find the one you prefer. Too many bells & whistles can
detract & compromise on quality. I also like that the opus takes
AA batteries. Some vibrators won't use rechargeable batteries, but
this one works very well.
It's more sensual than some vibrators, nice on a slow, languorous
morning. Soft orgasms that feel like I'm being caressed & never
want to let go. A wonderful way to greet the morning. And although
I've not tried it out yet, I imagine it would be ideal as a vibratory
tool on my man's more sensitive areas, around his testicles & even
around the head & frenum. It feels like a tongue when used on low
& like your best friend when on high.
